I recently had a girl call me “Handsie” – which I had never heard before in my life. It’s a fine line that we walk as men. Non-verbal communication is a major component of social interaction – especially in dating. Girls have it down to a science: That playful nudge, the gentle squeeze of the thigh, etc. The little things that let you know that she’s comfortable with physical contact.
Guys? Not generally as well-rehearsed on the ways of the woman. It’s not a bad thing at all: It’s just that there is a very fine line for most men between the casual, relaxing rubbing of the neck and the creepy, icy touch of a date-rapist.
Generally being an expressive, affectionate person is not a bad thing. I’ve never been a “PDA” person, but you can sneak a quick kiss or an inconspicuous handjob in the corner of the bar – We’ve all been there, and nobody is judging (Besides judging “Who the fuck is old enough to get into a bar and STILL is giving handjobs?” part) but those people who spend all night dry-humping in public need beaten. If I wanted to watch people bang, I’d stay home and watch RedTube – they are a lot hotter, and I don’t feel nearly as bad about having my dick out at my place as I do when I’m at Jack’s in the Southside.
I’ve given some guy advice in the past, so this one is for the ladies: Ladies – if you are around the wrong side of 30, you really need to loosen up your requirements for dating, and STEP UP YOUR GAME!!! I love you, but guys aren’t looking for a single 30 year old with a bad attitude who think they don’t have to work harder to find companionship. It’s a double standard, but it’s a true standard. If you are blowing off a guy who is nice and sweet because he expects you to bring better game than a 23-year old girl, you SHOULD. You are competing with girls who look better, have better attitudes, and are a LOT more eager to please.
Sidenote: You know how no guy really wants to be “friends” with a 20 year old girl? That’s DOUBLE true about a 30 year old woman. Stop it – you should know better.
So if you are a 30 year old single woman and you can’t understand why men aren’t chasing you around like they did 5 years ago – that’s a big part of it. the other part is that a 30 year old guy is generally done with the bullshit and jumping through hoops. Oh sure, he might bring the “A” game out of retirement for a smoking hot 22 year old, but what makes you think he’s going to tolerate YOUR shit?