I don’t always do things the easy way. I don’t always do things the conventional way. However what I’ve learned is that no matter what happens in life, I’m going to land on my feet.
This past week was a bit of a roller coaster for me, but it helped me appreciate who I am and what I’ve got going on. I am writing this from a suite in Cancun, Mexico. I was supposed to be here last Sunday, but being the adult that I am, I misplaced my passport. I realized this exactly 2 hours before my flight was supposed to leave and thus, did not make it to Mexico. However, the guy who always finds a way to make it work managed to get a birth certificate, new passport, and rebook a trip in 48 hours. Not only that but with the money I saved by moving things around for Mexico I went ahead and booked another trip for next week to Vegas. THAT is making lemonade.
I don’t know when I realized that I can work my way through almost any situation, but I have learned that I would not be anywhere near the success that I am without that trait. To take it one step further if I wasn’t good at figuring life out on the fly I’d probably be dead or in jail at this point – God knows I probably should be. It made me a good manager, but it’s also the thing that keeps me up at night writing at 3am while in a tropical paradise. Fuck it, I just got room service, and I’m enjoying life as it comes to me. I might not be where “society” says I should be but then again, society is pretty fucked up with what they think is considered “normal”.
I dated a girl who flipped out because I told her I didn’t believe in a 5 year plan. Hell, I’m not even sure I believe in a 5 month plan anymore. When I was on top of the mortgage industry and realized that the rug could be pulled out at any time (flashback to 2007 when an educated analyst could see the foreshadowing on the financial crisis that was looming) – so I learned to make the best and most out of whatever situation I found myself in from there on out. It’s served me pretty well. This whole “band” thing I pretty much learned on the fly, and it continues to go really well. We are booking bigger and better shows every day, and the business is growing. Oh, and I’m happy with my work. I think at the end of the day that’s all any of us can really ask for.
I still have the same types of problems that anyone running a small business would have. I’ve got guys who I’m trying to make share my vision, but who are all at very different points than I am. My challenge is to be as accommodating as possible to them while still doing what I feel is best for my business to grow. The trick now is balancing being a “boss” with maintaining that “steady as she goes” attitude and conveying that to the rest of the band. It’s just like a “real” job – Sometimes the guys want to call off, sometimes they don’t want to go to work, and sometimes I can work around that for them. The stress comes when for all of the bending and trying that I occasionally have to “pull rank” and be the guy in charge. I don’t like that, especially now that the band dynamic is so damn good. I think that is why it is important that even if all of the guys working together don’t share MY vision, they at least understand and respect it enough to compromise to that from time to time and of course, vice versa.
Taking the high road is hard, but it feels really good. I’ve been doing that a lot lately and I can’t help but think that it’s helping me along as well. Other people can live their lives being bitter, and jaded, and hurtful, and mean, and angry, and hate-filled but really: Where does that get you? The few times I get pissed off I use that as motivation to do something amazing. Those times are usually when I book a massive show, or hire another great band to get them some gigs. In other words, I try to channel that negativity into something beneficial.
Of course it’s easy to be optimistic laying in a gorgeous hotel room on the beach in Cancun, but I think my point is that even if it’s not the way YOU might do it, I’m putting myself in a position where I’m successful, I get what I want, and most importantly I am happy.