I haven’t written a “me” blog in a while, so this one is for me, and the 20 people who might care about some “real life” stuff.
I’m happy. I’m happier than I think I’ve ever been in my entire life. A few people saw me go through a pretty crappy funk in 2012. I wasn’t happy with my job, my relationships, my lack-of-ever-finishing a PhD, and so on. I put on a bunch of weight, let it affect some things that it shouldn’t have… But I got out.
I used to work in mortgages. When the financial sector basically imploded at the beginning of 2008 (THANKS OBAMA!) I found myself not having a job for the first time since I was 16 years old. I had a few months to reflect, recover, and figure out what I wanted to be when I grew up. I started singing in a band because I liked being in choir at Duquesne, and I enjoyed winning Greek Sing and Carnival with my Delta Chi Brothers. It was supposed to be nothing more than an excuse to stay social, get out of the house, impress girls, and get free beer. I didn’t look at it like a career, and while I didn’t know what I wanted to do for the rest of my life, I DID make this vow to myself:
I will never work for somebody else ever again.
It’s 2013, and so far, I’ve been able to hold true to that promise.
So now I’m going to the gym, eating better, and I’ve generally removed the negative factors that were ruining my life. If the biggest problems I have professionally are “Crap, I can’t find a few musicians who want to go with me to Australia to play for three months” or “Shit, I double booked the band because we don’t have an open date until 2014” I guess it’s not really the worst thing.
I’m really happy with Walk of Shame right now. Again, if my biggest frustration is trying to get together once a month to rehearse and add the new One Direction song – I guess it’s not the end of the world. The school year has started, which means I get to see my family up at SRU, and my new friends down at WVU a bunch. I started helping with the booking at a few venues, which is a great way to recommend other bands, network, and keep tying to do the right thing for business. We’ve actually got some awesome shows coming up and considering the uncertainty that I was dealing with earlier this year – It’s pretty bad ass that we are still on pace to have our best year by far. My frustrations with music actually come from external forces. What is happening is that locally, there are only a few “good” places for cover bands to play. As such, they get over-saturated with bands who are eager to get an opportunity to perform. These bands are generally not the best businessmen, so they do not realize that when they undercut the existing bands, they are contributing to not only killing the venue, but the entire “scene.” When you see really talented bands stop getting booked, and bands that are maybe not as good, but will agree to play for 1/2 of what the good bands play for – Nobody wins. I think that’s why I work so hard to try to help other bands out on the booking/management side of things. I’ve always been a “big picture” guy, and if you are willing to play shows for next to nothing – I guess it is easy to see what you are worth.
The Karma does work, though. Even bands that might not LIKE me have to understand this:
Besides, it makes me chuckle to know that I’m doing the right thing and taking the high road in the face of such petty and childish behavior from other people.
My little brother is getting married in two weeks, which earns me a trip to Jamaica for a few days. Again, if my biggest problem in life is “Shit, I have to get a good base tan before spending a week in paradise” I should really shut my fat mouth, and focus on dropping 10 more pounds before I get harpooned on the white sands of Negril.
There is one thing that you have to know about me:
You may be bigger, stronger, smarter, faster, better looking, and in better shape. You may be a better singer and better guitar player. You can be all of those things, but you will never outwork me. The fact that you will never outwork me is why you will never beat me.
Which is why you should join me.
Life Does Not Suck,